Wednesday, February 23, 2011

respect and responsibility

Preface: this post may be a little harsh, but I'm not going to apologize for it because it is my opinion, and I'm not going to be ashamed of my opinions. This post could lead in so many different directions, but I'm not going to get into all...we could be here for days...and days...And I hope I don't offend anyone, that is truly not my intent. Again, it's just an opinion. 

There is currently a patient at work who is 22 years old, 375lbs who "sits at home all day and plays video games with his father." As quoted by his mother. The patient's behavior is very demanding and hostile. The past two nights I have worked, I heard the patient call his nurse, and more importantly, his mother a "bitch" multiple times. {Add a few other choice descriptive words to give the term some added flavor, but I won't be sharing on here!} He also has attempted hitting nurses, with one very successful hit to a female nurse. 

My thoughts:
Why is he "sitting at home all day playing video games with his father {at the age of 22}?"
Why does he not have a JOB?
Who is going to pay for his medical bills after being in the hospital?
I'll go ahead an answer this one...YOU AND ME! BECAUSE WE HAVE A JOB, AND PAY TAXES! 

The most concerning thing to me though, out of the entire situation is that the patient has ZERO respect for anyone. He doesn't respect the nurses taking care of him and who are trying to help him get better. But again, more importantly, when I heard him call his own mother a B**** I was completely shocked. 

I know parents get really upset when people without kids try to parent/give parenting advice, but I want to know what happened to the parenting here? 
This is what is wrong with America/society/children today. There isn't respect or responsibility being taught anymore {it seems like.}

If I ever talked disrespectful to my parents, I would get spanked or grounded. And YES, I agree in spanking! I was a child productive spanking, and I'm all for it! But, that's another post all in itself! SO, if I ever said anything disrespectful to anyone else, the punishment was worse! 

I'm just in amazement as to people's {adults} behavior. 
And to the lack of parenting.

I'm so thankful to have involved parents who wanted to teach me life lessons and the importance of respect {in yourself and for others} and responsibility. I think they are two of the greatest qualities to have. 


  1. This is a great post, Lauren. I'm glad somebody said it like it is! I think it's so much easier to learn important life lessons when the stakes are small and we're kids, than when we're adults and the stakes are much much bigger. Thanks for the honesty and good luck with the difficult patient! :)

  2. GiRL... I am right there with you. I'm a substitute here in Fayette Co. & I am amazed/shocked/completely disturbed & disgusted by the way the kids talk to me at times. If I EVER uttered even *one* of those words to an adult (or at all for that matter,) my mom would seriously kick my tush into next week! I mean really, there have been times I was worried a kid was just going to haul off & smack me! Not kidding... It's ri-dic-u-lous! I'm all for a good spank & wish some of the kids I've encountered while subbing had experienced one or two while they were growing up!

    What a creep of a kid (or rather, adult, since he's 22!) I can't believe anyone would mistreat their parents & the wonderful nurses working so hard to take care of him! & to hit a woman?! Now *that's* a topic to tackle in another post!!

  3. I completely agree with everything you said in this post. I can only imagine what you all have to deal with in healthcare. I can't believe that guy hit a nurse. Maybe he should have had his food privileges taken away for the day. That would have taught him a lesson. ;)
    As a teacher, I definitely see some similar things. I see disrespect on a daily basis from students, but what blows my mind is that parents are just as disrespectful to teachers too.
    I feel like when I was in school things were so much different than they are now. We make so many behavior modifications and excuses for why kids act the way they do. Ridiculous. Spanking at school was still allowed when I was in elementary school. I sure did get a spanking from my teacher once...and that's all it took. Never stepped out of line again.

  4. I completely agree with you! It amazes me how differently children are raised these days (I sound so old!). I was taught to say yes/no ma'am/sir and please and thank you to all adults. And still do, to this day! I cannot believe how disrespectful children can be- and that parents let them get away with it. Drives me crazy! I am also so impressed with children with nice manners- and make sure I tell their parents!

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